𝗕𝗲 "𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮."...

If you have watched any of Selling Sunset you'll have seen the Legendary Christine Quinn spout the famous words now immortalised in TikTok, Instagram and Facebook reels and memes: 'Am I the Drama?'

It got me thinking...

How often do we, as Women, hold back, stay quiet and play small because we are too afraid of "causing drama"?

We have been told over and over that Women who speak up/speak loud/show emotion are at risk of being labelled 'dramatic' and therefore dismissed out of hand.

Sometimes it's to our face and sometimes it's 'about' someone else but we know that means the same. They may as well say - act like her and this is how I'm labelling you and probably behind your back. Ugh.

These are some thoughts I've personally had when I've been in that drama avoidance at all costs thinking cycle (some may resonate, some may not...)

"Can't not invite them to my event... Can't go in the weights bit... Can't end that relationship... Can't wear THAT... Can't start telling everyone I'm a coach after being a Dominatrix and an alcie..."

It's always a version of: Can't say that...Can't do that...Can't have that...Can't be that...

All because I was afraid it might cause 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮.

The time I've wasted on this way of thinking I don't even want to think about...

Learning to be OK with being THE DRAMA was one of my biggest personal breakthroughs.

How do we do it? The first step is to notice when we are doing it. It creates an unmistakable drop in energy, a deadening of our spirit, a shrinking feeling. When we feel that it's a sign to listen, observe and lean in.

What is it we are truly afraid of? Judgement? Rejection? Isolation?

Next step is to imagine what we would be doing if we weren't afraid of any of those things? What would it look like? How would it feel?

Final step is simply to choose.

Stay small or go for the big life - the one that requires giving up that fear and acting anyway.

That's what I now try to do every time that fear comes up. I lean into being The Drama. When those thoughts come up and I feel myself resisting - I remind myself to Be The Drama.

And if this is resonating, and you're sitting there not doing something you want to do or saying something you need to say this is YOUR sign to 𝗕𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮.

• Tell them straight "I've finalised the guest list and no, you cannot come" (without explaining yourself a million different ways)
• Get your ass in the weights section and lift heavy (even if it's full of guys)
• Wear the shit out of it (even if you do get looks)
• Dump the dead relationship (even if people will disapprove)
• Start the business (even if someone else has a similar business)

Say it Do it Get it Be it

I'll say it again because it's so worth repeating... Be The Drama

Let me know what you get from this in the comments